Choosing a wedding dress can be extremely stressful. There are so many questions that we ask ourselves: "As the bride, what do I personally like?" "Will my fiance like it?" "How much am I willing to spend?" Unfortunately, choosing the perfect dress is not an exact science. However, there are things you can do to make the decision with as much confidence as possible. Here is how:
1) Begin your search with a positive attitude. If you go into dress-searching believing that you won't find the perfect dress, it is likely to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Keep an open mind, and remember: even if the dress you choose doesn't seem to be the "perfect" dress, in the end, you still get to marry the person you love. They will think you're beautiful no matter what.
2) Begin searching. There are several places in which you can seek out wedding dresses. Wedding magazines, wedding dress stores, and wedding pictures online are the most common. You can also watch wedding television shows, such as "Say Yes to the Dress" or "My Fair Wedding."
- Also, make sure to print out copies of your favorite dresses. These can be helpful both to yourself and for your bridal consultant at whatever salon you go to. Through these sources, you can discover what dresses you do and do not like, and ultimately, what kind of dress you can picture yourself wearing on your big day.
3) Find out what flatters you. A lot of this is done through trying things on and experimenting. However, if you cannot tell what looks good and what doesn't, there are a few basic fashion rules that you can follow:
- First of all, if you aren't built like a model, chances are that the dress won't look the same on you as it does it does in the picture. That doesn't mean it will look bad, but that also doesn't mean that it won't.
- Second, plus-size women tend to have a harder time. Not only do they have a higher priced dress because of the excess fabric, but more fashion restrictions are placed upon them. They are generally not recommended to wear mermaid dresses. They also aren't recommended to wear certain types of ball gowns, which tend to add more bulk. Most fashion consultants suggest an a-line shape, which usually hides the larger areas without adding any excess material. If you are plus-sized, you may want to flaunt your curves with a form-fitting dress. As long as you and your fiance like it, that's really all that matters.
- Third, choose a dress that fits both your personality and your theme. For example, if you are an outgoing bride with the wedding theme Las Vegas, don't purchase a classic, plain dress. That would just end up confusing your guests.
- Ruching tends to make people look skinnier. Form-fitting lace dresses should be chosen with caution (it takes the right person to pull them off). And, for people with broad shoulders, halter top dresses are not usually the best choice.
- Also, be aware that you may have to put down a deposit when ordering a dress. Keep all of your receipts to avoid potential scams.
5) Decide who you're taking with you. Don't choose just anyone. You are going to want people who will be supportive and honest. Those people must also realize that it is your dress. If you love a dress but they don't, they need to support you. Otherwise, dress shopping can be a very painful process. You also must decide how big you want your entourage to be. I wouldn't recommend a large group, as they can become unfocused or over-opinionated. Still, you'll probably want more than just one person, just so that you'll have more variety and more people who can point out potential flaws. A group of 2-5 people is probably your best bet.
6) Make an appointment with a bridal salon. Congratulations! You have gotten through one of the potentially most difficult parts of the process. Now is the easy part. Search online for bridal stores in your area. After you have picked a few that you think you'll like, give them a call and schedule an appointment to try on dresses. After that, it's pretty much a no-brainer.
7) Keep a level head. Stay positive, be patient, and never give up hope. Always remember that what really matters is that person at the end of the aisle, and the knowledge that he (or she) plans to spend their whole life with you. Now that beats picking out an item of clothing by a long shot
Enjoy the process.
Ever After Bridal